Mixed Hen and Stag Party Invitations: Two Groups, One Link

Forty people in one group chat, two sets of friends who have never met, and the same question coming back twice a day: wait, is this for both of them? That question does not survive a chat moving this fast. It scrolls away in ten minutes, somewhere between a joke and a photo of a bar.

Mixed hen and stag party invitations exist to answer it once, on the page, before anybody has to ask. One link, the same for everyone, that settles who is being celebrated, when it starts and where to turn up. If you call it a joint bachelor and bachelorette party, it is the same job.

Who signs a mixed hen and stag party invitation

If the send-off is for the two of you, both names go on the cover with the same weight: 'Sam and Priya', not 'Priya's do (and Sam)'. Underneath, one line carries the rest: 'Mixed hen and stag · Saturday 14, 8pm · the barn past the ring road'. If one group is organising and the other is simply turning up, say so in the first line of the message you send with the link, so nobody has to ask who is paying for what.

• Both names on the cover in the same typeface and the same size, not the second one tucked away.
• One line under the title: what it is, the date, the time, the place.
• Who is hosting, in the first line of the message, if the two groups are not splitting the bill.
• A real meeting point, not 'address to follow'.

Two groups, one invitation, and nobody stuck by the door

When two sets of friends end up in the same room, some of them will not know a single person there. One sentence sorts that out: 'the work lot and the lot from home are both coming'. It sounds like nothing. It is the difference between walking in and hovering by the door with a drink in your hand.

Anything more delicate gets settled in the chat before you send, not after. If two people should not be sharing a table, that is a conversation for the week before, not a line on the cover. If the whole thing is a surprise for one of them, their name and photo cannot be on the front page: use a neutral title and tell the guests in the message. Keep the dress code short enough to act on — 'jeans and something with colour', not 'smart but fun'.

What goes on the invitation and what stays in the chat

Confirmations belong on the page, in one ordered list, with whatever questions you want to ask. Allergies, menus and who needs a lift do not — ask those in the group chat, where people answer. The message that carries the link is two lines: who is inviting you and for when. And when the group decides one thing and the link says another, the link wins. One source of truth beats two chats that disagree.

If a guest who knows nobody can work out in ten seconds who is being celebrated, when and where to show up, the etiquette has done its job.

Before you send the link

Open the link as the guest who knows nobody else. Cover, date, time, place, what to wear. If those five land in ten seconds, send it. After that you can still change the time or the venue without resending anything, because the link does not change. If someone wants paper for a memory box, print the one scene for two or three people rather than all forty. A Send The Joy invitation costs 29.99 EUR, paid once, and you can edit it as often as you need. Start with the cover: you can design it free before you pay for anything.