Digital Invitation for a Mixed Bachelorette Party

Six weeks before the date, a mixed bachelorette party has usually split into two chats. One where everyone agrees on a Saturday, another where nobody agrees on anything. Someone asks whether partners are invited, someone else asks how much they owe, and the plan sinks under eighty unread messages. A digital invitation for a mixed bachelorette party — what some people call a co-ed hen do — does the dull part for you: pick a design from the catalogue, drop in the date, the place and the map, and send one link today.

The order that works is simple: decide who's in, decide who pays what, then send one page that answers everything else. The toast, the games and the last round at 3am you can sort out on the night.

A mixed bachelorette party isn't a wedding with fewer people

Two things get muddled here. It isn't a bridal shower, and it isn't a wedding rehearsal. It's a night out, or a weekend, that friends of the couple organise together, and it only runs smoothly when the guest list and the money are settled before anyone books a table.

• Give the cost as numbers in the message: 35 each for dinner and 20 for drinks. Not in a spreadsheet nobody opens.
• Keep one group with a name people recognise — 'Ana and Luis, 14 June' — instead of two chats that quietly turn into two different plans.
• Decide today whether guests can bring their partners. If the answer changes depending on who you ask, the group will notice within two hours.
• Name one person per group of friends to chase replies. Five people asking 'are you coming?' is five times the noise.

City, date and exact time first — the rest is decoration

Group votes get stuck here. Without a city and a date, an open poll ends in a draw and you lose a week. Offer two closed options instead: dinner in the centre and then drinks, or a country house from Friday to Sunday. People can answer a choice. They can't answer a blank page.

If anyone is travelling in, write the arrival time and the meeting point in full. 'In the afternoon' doesn't help anybody book a train.

Nobody needs another group chat. They need one link with the time, the place and a yes or no.

Why a digital invitation keeps a mixed party simple

Everything you'd otherwise repeat by message lives on one page: the time, the address, the map and a photo of last year's group. Confirmations arrive inside the invitation in one ordered list, with the RSVP questions you set, so nobody has to count maybes in a chat. Guests install nothing — they open the link in their phone's browser. It's 100% digital, so there's no paper to print and no envelopes to post. If someone wants something to keep, the sensible mix is a link for everyone and a few printed copies for whoever will file them away.

The day before: two lines and one link

Send the link again the night before with one short line: 'Saturday, 20:30 — the map is here.' Write the meeting point in full: the name of the bar, which door, the nearest metro stop. Save last year's group photo for the cover too. You can upload up to 6 of your own photos, each one frames itself, and you can swap any of them later.

One link covers what a mixed bachelorette party always argues about: who's coming, where, at what time and who owes what. A digital invitation is 29.99 EUR, one-time payment, no subscription, and you can try a design for free before you pay. Publish it when you're ready.