Digital invitation for an LGBTQ+ wedding, done right

You're on the sofa with a laptop open and one line keeps coming back: the label at the top of the cover. 'The brides' fits neither of you, and 'Mr and Mrs' is out of the question. That is the first thing an LGBTQ+ wedding asks of an invitation, and it is quicker to fix on a digital invitation than on a printed card — the field is editable, a character counter stops you mid-word, and nothing goes to the printer. You can pick a design, edit the cover and publish a digital invitation today from the catalogue.

Below is how to plan an LGBTQ+ wedding with an invitation that names every person the way they actually use their name, keeps the confirmations in one list and lets you move the ceremony half an hour earlier without sending a single new link.

Digital invitation wording for an LGBTQ+ wedding

Start in the editor, because the editor decides what you have to decide. There is one field per piece of information: label, names, date, sentence and place. The fields start empty, so nothing is assumed about who is marrying whom. That also means no long paragraphs to hide in and no 'we'll fix it later'. Write each name as that person writes it. Add pronouns if they want them on the invitation; leave them off if they don't. And swap the cover label for something that names two people before you touch the fonts.

• Rewrite the cover label first: 'the couple', your two first names, or 'the two of us'. Anything that names both of you and nobody else.
• Type each name the way it's actually used. If you're unsure about a pronoun or a spelling, ask now — it's one line and ten seconds to change.
• Delete 'Miss', 'Mr and Mrs', 'bachelors and bachelorettes' and any wording that splits your guest list into two kinds of people.
• Decide whether there are witnesses, godparents or no supporting figures at all. A role left undecided ends up half-written in the promises scene.

How to create a digital invitation that reads like your wedding

Essentials first: date, time, place with a map, dress code and one sentence in your own words. All of it is edited in the same panel, with the preview updating as you type. You can upload up to six of your own photos — cover and decorative ones — and they frame themselves; mark the one you want on the cover and replace it when the good session arrives. Add music if you want it, then work through the scenes: Threshold of limewash, Memory of the patio, Arc of promises, Long table, Last dance. Each one takes your texts and your photos, so the invitation reads like the day rather than like a form.

Then leave it for a week and come back. Editing after you've sent it is normal, and the link doesn't change. If the venue moves the ceremony forward, you edit the scene and the same link shows the new time. Dress code, map, the sentence on the cover — same story. No reprint, no second envelope, no 'ignore the previous message'. That's the difference between digital invitations and a card: the link stays, the content moves. Pin the link in the group chat so there's one version in circulation instead of four screenshots with last month's time.

An invitation is a short piece of writing that names people. Get the names right and everything else — the map, the dress code, the photo — has somewhere to sit.

The RSVP that doesn't make you chase anyone

Confirmations arrive inside the invitation, in one ordered list, and guests install nothing: they open the link in the browser on their phone and answer there. Set only the questions you'll genuinely use. Menus, allergies, intolerances and cots stay on the channel you already use for them, because the RSVP form doesn't collect that. Want paper for the people who keep things? Print a handful of cards and send the link to everyone else — that combination works. Meanwhile, try the cover for free, get the wording right, and publish with one button when the text sounds like the two of you.