Christening Invitations for Surrogacy: Who Signs

Christening invitations for surrogacy families start with a blinking cursor. The field says 'Names'. You type the two of you, delete it, type your names plus Aina's, delete that too. She carried Leo, she'll be at the church on the 14th, and you still don't know whether her name belongs on the front page.

None of it is a wording problem. It's four small decisions you can make in one sitting: who signs, what you call the person who carried him, how people reply, and who gets paper. Here's how each one works.

Christening invitations for surrogacy: who signs

The editor gives you one field per detail, so don't squeeze everything into the label. 'Leo's Christening' goes in the label. You two go in the names field: 'Marco and Julian'. If a name would repeat across two households, write each adult once, and keep the same order on the cover and in the closing line.

• Label: 'Leo's Christening'. It reads the same for two dads, two mums or a family spread across three houses.
• Names field: 'Marco and Julian'. One adult, one full name, never 'the dads'.
• Thank-you line: 'Leo arrived thanks to Aina, who is sitting with us today.'
• Final block: 'Saturday 14th, 12:00, the chapel on the square. Lunch at home afterwards.'

Where the surrogate's name goes

Ask her before you write anything. Does she want to be on it, and under which word: her name, 'our surrogate', 'Aina, who carried Leo', or nowhere? One question before you publish beats a screen she has to read while holding the baby.

If she wants to be named, one line does the work. In the thank-you scene: 'Leo arrived thanks to Aina, who is sitting with us today.' Then keep the front page clean. Skip 'substitute mother' if she doesn't use that word herself; on an invitation, a word is read once and remembered on every screen.

The invitation doesn't have to explain your family to anyone. It just has to get the names right.

RSVPs that don't get lost in the group chat

Every guest replies inside the invitation, and the answers land in one ordered list. No counting messages, no chasing your brother for a headcount. Set the questions to fit your christening, 'How many of you are coming?' or 'Who's joining from your family?', and you'll know how many chairs to book. If the time, the chapel or the restaurant changes, you edit it and the same link shows the new version.

A link for everyone, paper for whoever keeps it

The invitation is a web page. It opens from a link, a QR code or a message in any browser, and nobody installs an app. If your grandmother wants something to hold, do both: the link for everyone, a few printed copies for the people who'll file them away. You can add up to 6 photos of your own and swap any of them later. If the baby hasn't arrived, or you'd rather not show his face, open with details: the shawl, the candle, the chapel door.

When each name sits in its own field, the invitation stops explaining and just calls the people you want in the room. Pick a design, try it free in preview mode, and publish once the names are settled. 29.99 EUR, one payment.